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September 8, 2012

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Seek God- Week 1

How to use Talk It Over: over for singles Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with the key questions, add in any optional scriptures and questions if needed, then wrap up by deciding on your next steps. Craig’s Main Idea: Seek God and discover who you are in Him, as this will prepare you for your spouse. God should always be your “one” and your spouse will become your “two”. Key Questions: • • • What’s one idea from the message that really stood out to you? Why did this idea grab your attention? Is seeking God a priority in your life right now? Why or why not? What would it look like for you to fully seek God in your life? Craig said, “Become the kind of person you want to marry.” What kind of person do you know you need to become for your future spouse? Optional Questions: If needed, include one or more of these scriptures and questions to extend your conversation. • • • • With your Bible or YouVersion, read and discuss Matthew 22:37-40, Psalm 10:4-6, and 2 Chronicles 7:14. Craig said that God is woven into every area of our lives. In what ways do see God woven into your life? How would you describe your current prayer life? Where might you need improvement? Share one of the ways reading God’s Word has blessed your life. Next Steps: • What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message? daily bible readings Take steps to seek God this week by reading the following Bible passages. Day 1: Matthew 22:34-40 Day 2: Matthew 6:25-34 Day 3: Jeremiah 17:5-8 Day 4: 2 Chronicles 7:11-18 Day 5: John 1:1-18 Day 6: James 4:1-8 Day 7: Proverbs 3:1-6 group Challenge Begin praying for your future spouse every day this week. Pray that God will reveal to you the person you need to become for your spouse. As you pray, make a list of all the things God reveals to you about who you need to become. Take your next steps by putting the things God reveals to you into action.

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Fight Fair – Week 2
How to use Talk It Over: over for singles Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with the key questions, add in any optional scriptures and questions if needed, then wrap up by deciding on your next steps. Craig’s Main Idea: Strive to fight fair in all of your relationships today so that you will fight fair with your future spouse. When you fight you must “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Key Questions: • • • What’s one idea from the message that really stood out to you? Why did this idea grab your attention? Do a reality check: How would you evaluate the way you currently handle conflict with others? Do you typically fight fair or unfair? Explain. Craig said the keys to fighting fair are found in James 1:19, which says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” In which of these three ways do you do well when you fight and which do you not? Optional Questions: If needed, include one or more of these scriptures and questions to extend your conversation. • • • • • With your Bible or YouVersion, read and discuss James 1:19-20, Proverbs 18:2, Proverbs 21:23, and Ephesians 4:26-27. How did your parents and your family handle conflict while growing up? How has that shaped the way you handle conflict with others? Describe one of the biggest fights or conflicts you’ve been involved in. How did you handle it? How did it get resolved? What did it reveal to you about the way you handle conflict? In what ways do you need to improve at handling conflict? Share an example from your experiences of why it’s important to guard your words and handle your anger when you fight. Next Steps: • What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message? Daily bible reaDings Take steps to fight fair in all of your relationships this week by reading and talking over the following Bible passages. Day 1: Proverbs 18:1-13 Day 2: James 3:1-12 Day 3: James 1:19-27 Day 4: Ephesians 5:21-33 Day 5: Ephesians 4:25-32 Day 6: Romans 12:9-21 Day 7: Matthew 18:21-35 group Challenge Memorize James 1:19-20, which says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” This week pay attention to how well you guard your words and listen to others in your interactions. Focus especially on listening well, as this will be a very valuable skill to develop for your marriage.

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Have Fun – Week 3 How to use Talk It Over: for singles Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with the key questions, add in any optional scriptures and questions if needed, then wrap up by deciding on your next steps. Craig’s Main Idea: Fun is not a luxury in marriage; therefore, make fun a priority in all of your most important relationships. Key Questions: • • • What’s one idea from the message that really stood out to you? Why did this idea grab your attention? What relationship have you had the most fun in? What was it about the relationship and person that made it so fun? What were some of the things you did together that made it fun? Is having fun a priority in your relationships? Why or why not? Optional Questions: If needed, include one or more of these scriptures and questions to extend your conversation. • • • • • • With your Bible or YouVersion, read and discuss Ecclesiastes 9:9, Song of Solomon 4:1-3, and Song of Solomon 7:1-12. What’s your idea of the perfect date? How close have you come to having the perfect date? Why do think it’s important to God that we find joy in our lives and in our relationships with others? What fun traits are you looking for in a future spouse? What are some steps you can take today that will ensure that fun is a priority in your marriage in the future? As a group, compile a list of fun and creative date ideas. Next Steps: • What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message? Daily bible reaDings Take steps towards making fun a priority in your relationships by reading and talking over the following Bible passages this week. Day 1: Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 Day 2: Song of Solomon 4:1-16 Day 3: Song of Solomon 7:1-13 Day 4: Proverbs 5:1-23 Day 5: Revelation 2:4-5 Day 6: 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 Day 7: Proverbs 17:22 group Challenge  This week have a quick brainstorming session on different fun things you will want to do in your marriage. Write these ideas down in a journal or something similar. Keep this list with you and continue to add new ideas even after you get married. Make sure to do these things together with your future spouse. Also, do something fun and spontaneous this week that you normally and typically wouldn’t do.

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Stay Pure – Week 4
How to use Talk It Over: for singles Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with the key questions, add any optional scriptures and questions if needed, and then wrap up by deciding on your next steps. Craig’s Main Idea: You can’t build a foundation of sin now for a life of purity later. The best way to prepare for a pure marriage in the future is to live pure today. Key Questions: • • • What’s one idea from the message that really stood out to you? Why did this idea grab your attention? If there is one area of vulnerability that could compromise your purity, what would it be? What are some specific things you are doing or need to do to seek and maintain purity all throughout your life? Optional Questions: If needed, include one or more of these scriptures and questions to extend your conversation. • • • • • With your Bible or YouVersion, read and discuss Hebrews 13:4, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 10:13, and Psalm 119:9-11. Do a reality check: Is seeking purity a priority in your life? Explain. What some of the most common types of impurities you’ve seen filter into your life? At what point in a dating relationship do you feel physical affection can become impure? Describe a time when you dealt with impurity. How did you deal with it and what did you learn from your experience? Next Steps: • What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message? Daily bible reaDings Take steps to ensure maintaining purity is a priority in your life by reading and talking over the following Bible passages this week. Day 1: Hebrews 13:1-8 Day 2: 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 Day 3: Ephesians 5:1-21 Day 4: Psalm 119:1-16 Day 5: 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 Day 6: Colossians 3:1-25 Day 7: Romans 13:12-14 group Challenge  Identify those areas of impurity you struggle with most. Next, develop a strategy and implement actions steps to safeguarding yourself against those impurities. Be sure to share with someone you trust what you are struggling with and how you are going to go about addressing it. Allow them to hold you accountable as you take your next steps.

TRUE LOVE WAITS!

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NEVER GIVE UP – Week 5
How to use Talk It Over: for singles Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with the key questions, add any optional scriptures and questions if needed, and wrap up by deciding on next steps. Craig’s Main Idea: You reap what and where you sow. Be intentional about what and where you are sowing today so that you are preparing for a harvest in your marriage in the future. Key Questions: • • • What’s one idea from the message that really stood out to you? Why did this idea grab your attention? What and where are you sowing right now? Are you pleased with what you’re reaping or do you need to make changes? What are some specific things you’ve learned from this series that you are going to do now to ensure you have a successful marriage later? Optional Questions: If needed, include one or more of these scriptures and questions to extend your conversation. • • • • •

With your Bible or YouVersion, read and discuss Matthew 19:1-12 and Galatians 6:7-9. Do you tend to be more selfish or selfless in your relationships? Explain. What qualities are you looking for in a future spouse? Which qualities are most important to you? How have you seen divorce affect your family or the families of those you know? What things are you afraid of that might make you want to give up on your future marriage? What do you need to do to overcome these fears?

Next Steps: • What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message? Daily bible reaDings Take steps to ensure you are sowing and reaping things that will help you in preparing for marriage by reading and talking over the following Bible passages this week.

Day 1: Matthew 19:1-12
Day 2: Galatians 6:1-10
Day 3: Malachi 2:10-16
Day 4: Mark 10:1-12
Day 5: Genesis 2:4-25
Day 6: Matthew 5:31-32
Day 7: 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 group

Challenge  Write a list of things you need to do and want to focus on that will help prepare you for marriage. Set goals for yourself if needed. Be diligent and strive not to give up on these things, and instead pursue them even when you don’t want to or when times get hard. Stay diligent until the day you get married.

OH WHAT FUN THIS BE!!

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